Wednesday, 16 September 2009

On spanking

As I mentioned before, I have been into spanking for as long as I can remember. Even before I explored any other Domme activities, before I was even aware of the fact that I was a Domme, I was already spanking neighborhood kids as I was growing up. There is something about the activity that fascinates me enormously. In fact, if I am honest, I get excited by it. There's something about the sight of an upturned and bared male bottom that makes me want to smack it. The exquisite and smooth round globes are just so...inviting. Because I love it so much, and because of the fact that I have Robert close at hand most of the time, I get to indulge in a little spanking - or a lot of spanking - often.

In our home, there are essentially three kinds of spanking. Not that they are so clearly separated all the time, but on the whole, it is quite easy for us to keep them separated.
  1. Punishment spanking
     Fairly obvious what these are, I would say. Robert has messed up in some way or form and I make sure he learns his lesson. I do my best to make these spankings as memorable as possible for him and that does involve a good deal of bruises and difficulty sitting. They are also quite ritualized and are definitely not fun for him or for me, really. I'd rather not have to punish him. They are usually short, sharp and intensely painful.
  2.  Therapeutic spanking
    Perhaps hard for some people to understand, but a good spanking can actually help Robert to relax. Sometimes, when the poor thing comes home after a stressful day at work, I can just tell he needs one. Like others need a back rub, Robert needs some good swats to the extreme lower end of his back. While these spankings obviously hurt (every spanking causes some amount of pain), they are not nearly as painful as a punishment spanking. The relaxing effect is caused by endorphins released into the bloodstream as a result of the pain. Endorphins are natural opiates, which of course help to relax the muscles and the mind. Think of a therapeutic spanking as a very intense massage and you won't be far off.
  3. Fun spanking
    These are probably the hardest for others to understand. How can a spanking be fun? Well, they certainly are not always fun for Robert in the sense that he does not enjoy them, though on some level he does. Fun spankings are very much fun for me, obviously. For Robert they range from mildly painful and a rosy backside to nearly the same intensity as a punishment spanking...or even more. Why does a fun spanking hurt more than a punishment spanking, you may ask. Well, maybe you are not going to ask, but I'm going to tell you anyway. Robert likes to be challenged on occasion, and I like to challenge him. I like to see how far I can push him, how red and sore I can make him before he desires to stop. In a way, he loves to suffer for me, he wants to accept the pain I inflict on his backside, not because he was bad, but because he knows how much I enjoy spanking him. He takes pride in accepting the spanking, in the marks I leave on his bottom and he loves the way the spanking underlines his position. He enjoys going to work and feeling the warmth and soreness all day as he sits down. He says it makes him feel close to me. Nobody knows about the pink panties under his trousers, the bruises on his bottom but me and him. It creates an intimate bond, sharing that secret and living our secret lives.
That concludes the first bit I wanted to say about spanking. I will write more about it in the future.

The picture included with this post, I found on the weblog "Over her knee". I hope the artist does not mind me using this delightful image as an illustration for my post. Should you mind, please let me know and I will remove it. It is not my intent to steal other's work.

1 comment:

  1. Good heavens! That is literally word for word the same for me and my wife. I can't see any bit she would not exactly echo. Fascinating!