Friday, 15 July 2011

Female supremacy

A while back, a reader sent me an email, asking me how I feel about female supremacy. I sent him a reply explaining my feelings but because this wasn't the first time that question came up, I decided to write an entry on my blog about it too. You see, I feel very strongly about female supremacy. Strongly in the sense that I detest the idea of female supremacy. I detest it with a passion. The idea that anyone, by birth, should be superior to someone else gives me the willies. Just because I turned out to be female, I would therefor be somehow better than men? It's ridiculous. Replace the word "female" with the word "white" in that sentence and you'll get an idea of how silly the idea is. Nowadays, virtually no one would publicly call themselves superior because they were born white, would they? And that's a good thing!

Don't get me wrong, I know it is a very attractive fantasy for some. And of course there's nothing wrong with indulging in a little fantasy. Because let's face it, much of BDSM and sex in general, is based in or at least spiced by fantasy. It's not the people that fantasize about female supremacy that concern me, but the people who actually believe in it, do.
As a species, we need both sexes. Both men and women have been given certain traits and qualities that complement each other and that are necessary for our survival. They were in prehistoric times and they still are today. If we don't have both sexes, our species would not survive very long because as far as I know, no woman has ever given birth to a child without a man being involved somehow. Okay, some may believe there's an exception but even then, one child every 2000 years or so would do little for our overall survival potential. There are some qualities where one sex may be superior to the other, for instance men usually have superior strength, woman have superior communication skills. Neither upper body strength nor communication makes a sex superior across the board. I don't care much for this "battle of the sexes" notion. I believe that men and women need each other as men and women.

Some might argue that because I am a Domme, I am automatically a superior woman because I place myself over the people I dominate. I feel that that is not true either. As a Domme (and I think any good Domme would agree with me) I don't place myself above others. Rather, those that choose to submit to me, voluntarily place themselves under my will. That's a big difference to me. The submission is an active, voluntary act on the part of the submissive. I am the superior, by their choice. So logically, if they choose me as their superior, I can only remain being their superior as long as they are still behind that choice. The moment they are no longer behind that choice, I will be unable to be their superior. If someone can make that choice, how can there be any real superiority?


  1. Some interesting points, thanks for posting. My husband is submissive to me and it excites me to know I have that control over him.

  2. Thank you, m. Yes, the control you can have over a man can be quite intoxicating, can't it?
    Especially with chastity involved they become very pliable very quickly, in my experience.

  3. I've just started to read your blog, but I can say this right now: I like your style, and I'm looking forward to reading more.

  4. I enjoyed your post and agree. My Blog her is my sissy side but that is only a part of me just like many of us here.

    You made mention of BDSM. Some may not understand the difference between "supremacy" and "power exchange".

    I believe the difference in this context may simply be the respect of another as a human.