Female supremacy

A while back, a reader sent me an email, asking me how I feel about female supremacy. I sent him a reply explaining my feelings but because this wasn't the first time that question came up, I decided to write an entry on my blog about it too. You see, I feel very strongly about female supremacy. Strongly in the sense that I detest the idea of female supremacy. I detest it with a passion. The idea that anyone, by birth, should be superior to someone else gives me the willies. Just because I turned out to be female, I would therefor be somehow better than men? It's ridiculous. Replace the word "female" with the word "white" in that sentence and you'll get an idea of how silly the idea is. Nowadays, virtually no one would publicly call themselves superior because they were born white, would they? And that's a good thing!

Don't get me wrong, I know it is a very attractive fantasy for some. And of course there's nothing wrong with indulging in a little fantasy. Because let's face it, much of BDSM and sex in general, is based in or at least spiced by fantasy. It's not the people that fantasize about female supremacy that concern me, but the people who actually believe in it, do.
As a species, we need both sexes. Both men and women have been given certain traits and qualities that complement each other and that are necessary for our survival. They were in prehistoric times and they still are today. If we don't have both sexes, our species would not survive very long because as far as I know, no woman has ever given birth to a child without a man being involved somehow. Okay, some may believe there's an exception but even then, one child every 2000 years or so would do little for our overall survival potential. There are some qualities where one sex may be superior to the other, for instance men usually have superior strength, woman have superior communication skills. Neither upper body strength nor communication makes a sex superior across the board. I don't care much for this "battle of the sexes" notion. I believe that men and women need each other as men and women.

Some might argue that because I am a Domme, I am automatically a superior woman because I place myself over the people I dominate. I feel that that is not true either. As a Domme (and I think any good Domme would agree with me) I don't place myself above others. Rather, those that choose to submit to me, voluntarily place themselves under my will. That's a big difference to me. The submission is an active, voluntary act on the part of the submissive. I am the superior, by their choice. So logically, if they choose me as their superior, I can only remain being their superior as long as they are still behind that choice. The moment they are no longer behind that choice, I will be unable to be their superior. If someone can make that choice, how can there be any real superiority?

Rules of the mansion

As I mentioned in my previous post, I am married with my submissive, my boy. I like to address him as boy, which underlines the fact that he is so much younger than me. It does wonders for my ego, to have a young man at home, pampering me and I enjoy to be pampered (this has nothing to do with nappies, mind you!).

Since we live together as husband and wife (to the outside world at least), this gives us the possibility to play 24/7. Of course we don't do that. You have to be able to step outside of the roles when needed. When he is ill, for instance (men are such babies when it comes to feeling a little under the weather). We need to be able to discuss things as equals. But there is a clear understanding that in all discussions, my word is final. He accepts this as a matter of course, the good boy that he is.
While we discuss things as equals, we do have a set of rules that I insist upon and that I'd like to share with you.

Duties

1. I will cook, but he will set the table and do the washing up. Reason for this is that he could not cook to save his life.
2. He will do all the cleaning around the house.
3. He will keep the garden well kept and neat.
4. He will do the laundry and ironing.
5. He will keep all toys and instruments clean and ready for immediate use.

Personal appearance

1. He will shave his face daily.
2. He will wear neat and clean clothing where ever he goes.
3. He will get frequent hair cuts.
4. He will keep his nails trimmed.
5. He will change his underwear daily, his socks at least once every two days.
6. He will make sure his shoes are neatly shined.

Special instructions

1. He will wear panties of my choice, unless instructed otherwise. This means he is in panties 95% of the time. The other 5% is made up of times when he wears no underwear at all or male underwear, when he needs to go somewhere were people might see his undergarments.
2. He will keep his genitals shaved and will shave his bottom once a week. I can't stand a hairy bottom.
3. He will not masturbate without permission. Period. No exceptions.
4. He will not look at pornographic imagery with one exception and that is pornography which depicts submissive males.
5. He will speak to me respectfully at all times, even when in public. He will not use obscenities or raise his voice to me. 

Of course these rules are not that hard to follow, when someone really wants to. And he does want to very much.  They help to maintain the Domme/sub interaction between us. We arrived at this set of rules after good and open discussion about what I like in my sub and about what he would be willing to accept. Breaking any of the rules above results in punishment, which is also part of our mutual understanding.